Misunderstanding & Misuse of Male Sexuality!
A detailed explanation of why and how male dominance has been a plague on humanity since Day One, and what could and should be done about it.
THE MALE DOMINANCE FACTOR
What nature obviously did not foresee or plan for was the possibility that male members of the human species would not always have ready access to females for sexual purposes. Males were designed with their gonads always in the “on” position, producing semen and sexual energy 24 hours a day.
The problem with this is that when males are prevented—for whatever reason—from expelling all of the sexual energy that builds up in their gonads and prostate glands the pressure from the unused energy builds up and up, and fairly early in the process begins to affect how males think and act.
One of the most unheralded results of this sexual energy buildup is the relationship between violence and unused male sexual energy. Studies by professionals have shown that the more sexual energy that builds up in males the more likely they are to engage in behavior that includes every form of violence known.
This behavior ranges from verbal and physical abuse of children, girl friends and wives to fighting among themselves, single and mass murders, and wars in which hundreds to millions are maimed and killed.
Just one aspect of the misunderstanding and misuse of human sexuality in ancient as well as modern times is the incarceration of huge numbers of men in prisons where they do not have access to normal sexual release with females. There are also prisons for females who have no access to male sexual partners but their numbers are miniscule compared to males.
In many countries, including the U.S., religious taboos have traditionally prevented prison inmates from having access to partners of the opposite sex. But there are some exceptions.
Mexico, often touted as a strict Catholic country, allows many of its prison inmates to have conjugal visits from wives and girl friends, particularly those who can afford to pay their jailors a fee for the privilege.
This situation exists in Mexico because like other typical Hispanic-influenced Catholic countries most of the men pay no attention to the dictates of the Church [except perhaps on Sundays and special holidays]—looking at religious beliefs and real life as separate worlds. There is even a special term for this division of real life and religious life in the Catholic Philippines.
The Incredible Masturbation Taboos
The role of the Christian Church in attempting to control the sexual behavior of males has included taboos against masturbation. Until recent times the Church taught that achieving sexual release through mastur-bation was a sin against God. There is scripture in the Bible that says it is better for males to leave their seed in the bellies of whores than cast it to the wind.
And until modern times some preachers and priests advised mothers of young boys to tie their hands behind their backs at night so they couldn’t masturbate while in bed. [It is normal for males to get hard-on’s from four to a dozen times every 24 hours, including while asleep, which often wakes them up as they get older.]
As late as the 19th century some Christian mothers were still telling their young sons that masturbating would make them go insane—and still today young males who masturbate do it furtively in order not to be caught and shamed by their parents or other adults. Masturbating by girls has been even more taboo.
Thanks to the religious position on masturbation, the female need and urge to masturbate has given rise to a large industry that manufactures and sells dildos and other masturbation tools for women.
Another Hard-On Dilemma!
Healthy males get hard-on’s from four to eight or more times every 24-hour period, starting when they are still in the womb and continuing until they are in their 70s, 80s or 90s if they live that long.
In advanced countries today men are living into their 70s and 80s and beyond, and during these long life-spans they are having far more erections per day and night than was normal for males in the past because there is more overt sexual stimulation.
This means the average male gets from 2,000 to 3,000 hard-on’s per year, of which less than 10 percent are used. You can image what kind of physical and emotional stress this causes.
In addition to this natural phenomena, by the time boys in the United States and some other countries are in their mid-teens they have advanced to necking with girl friends, during which they typically have full, hard, unrelieved erections for as long as an hour or more. This results in significantly increasing the build-up of stress in their prostate glands and gonads—often to the point that it is extremely painful.
Furthermore, the amount of sexual titillation that present-day males of all ages are exposed to on television, in magazines, movies, etc., is incredible, and dramatically increases the incidence of regular, daily sexual stress that is not relieved.
If you assume that a male has a partial or complete erection only five times every 24-hour period and lives to be 60 years old that amounts to a total of 109,500 erections. You can assume that these erections were not “used” more than about 100 times a year, for a total of 6,000 during the 60-year period. This leaves males with well over 100,000 unrelieved sexual arou-sals over a period of six decades.
The negative impact this accumulation of stressed-out periods has on the prostate gland has to be hor-rific—and may be the primary cause of the enlarge-ment of the prostate gland…and may also be associated with the incidence of prostate cancer.
For every year beyond 60 that you add to the life-span of men you have at least an additional 1,800-plus erections—and despite old tales you might have heard, normal, healthy men in their 70s and 80s do get hard-on’s, and suffer when they are not used.
It’s Not a Laughing Matter!
Those who are tempted to laugh this problem off as something that is not really serious would, again, be well advised to consider that unrelieved sexual stress among males is one of the primary sources of all of the male-generated violence that has plagued mankind from the beginning.
The longer normal, healthy males go without releasing the natural buildup of sexual energy the more apt they are to engage in some kind of violence—from abusing their wives and children to taking their frustrations out on other members of society—or engaging in other kinds of destructive behavior.
If you make up a list of all of the cruel, destructive, evil, inhumane, savage and stupid things that have happened to human beings—and are, of course, still happening today—at least ninety-five percent of the people responsible for these things have been and are males.
One of the primary reasons for this male mayhem can be traced to the position taken by the three largest and most powerful religious cults [Judaism, Christianity and Islam], which resulted in males having to repress their natural sexual desires and use up their sexual energy in other ways that were often violent.
The fact that this religious rationale incorporated the concept that females are inferior to males made life even more onerous and destructive for humanity in general.
In simple terms, when a man gets hard on the bottom he gets soft on the top—meaning he cannot think in clear, rational terms and is likely to do irrational things when in a state of sexual arousal.
In the past the only option generally open to young males to expel their sexual energy was masturbation, which was generally effective when early teenage boys were concerned. But masturbation is not the natural solution for adult men. It relieves the physical stress somewhat but not all of the mental/emotional stress—and the relief is short-lived.
Male-dominated religious teachings combined with man-made legal and social sanctions designed to keep women from expending their unused sex energy has caused as much if not more damage to the mental and physical well-being of females.
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Boyé Lafayette De Mente has been involved with Asia since the late 1940s as a member of a U.S. intelligence agency, journalist and editor. He is a graduate of Jōchi University in Tokyo, Japan and Thunderbird School of Global Management in Glendale, Arizona, USA. In addition to books on the business practices, social behavior and languages of China, Japan, Korea and Mexico he has written extensively about the plague of male dominance and the moral collapse of the U.S. and the Western world in general. Recent books include: CHINA Understanding & Dealing with the Chinese Way of Doing Business; JAPAN Understanding & Dealing with the NEW Japanese Way of Doing Business; AMERICA’S FAMOUS HOPI INDIANS; ARIZONA’S LORDS OF THE LAND [the Navajos] and SPEAK JAPANESE TODAY – A Little Language Goes a Long Way! To see a full list of his 60-plus books go to: www.authorsonlinebookshop.com. All of his titles are available from Amazon.com.
The origins of human violence have been known since the earliest times but efforts to control or diminish violence have not succeeded because men were in charge of all of the efforts. This book, available from Amazon.com in both printed and ebook formats, explains why and provides some answers.
![This is a fictionalized account of how the misunderstanding and misuse of male and female sexuality leads to a chain of sex clinics [where patients get the "real thing"] that becomes the largest enterprise in the world and results in the election of the first female president of the U.S. - with a startling end.](https://boyelafayettedemente.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/new-eros-front-cover.jpg)
This is a fictionalized account of how the misunderstanding and misuse of male and female sexuality leads to a chain of sex clinics [where patients get the “real thing”] that becomes the largest enterprise in the world and results in the election of the first female president of the U.S. – with a startling end.
Misunderstanding & Misuse of Female Sexuality!
This is a fictionalized account of how the misunderstanding and misuse of male and female sexuality leads to a chain of sex clinics [where patients get the “real thing”] that becomes the largest enterprise in the world and results in the election of the first female president of the U.S. – with a startling end.
Over the millennia the various ailments females suffered from being denied the opportunity to fulfill their sexual needs were invariably linked by males to the overall nature of females—not sexual deprivation. Some men, however, consciously or subconsciously, apparently realized that there was a sexual element in the “disruptive” behavior of females, and their often stated solution was that they needed a “good screw.”
However, this insight did not lead to any lessening of the male-created taboos that kept females from being able to use up their sexual energy.
The Role of the Catholic Church
Some of the measures promoted or condoned by the Catholic Church during the so-called Middle Ages to control female sexual behavior are hardly believable today.
Beginning in the 11th century, European church and lay leaders launched a series of religious-inspired military campaigns against Middle East countries in an attempt to free Jerusalem and the other “Holy Cities” from their Moslem occupiers. These so-called “Crusades” against Islamic countries continued off and on for approximately three hundred years.
During this incredibly long period of Pope-backed wars some men had their wives outfitted with “chastity belts”—iron thong-like devices that were locked in place to prevent the women from being able to have sexual intercourse with other males while the husbands were away doing their religious duty.
Many of these lockable iron “chastity belts” were made in Italy, where their manufacture and use was promoted by the Catholic Church. [Even farther out than this device was an older practice among ancient slave holders to have the foreskin of the penises of their adult male slaves sewn tight, leaving only a tiny hole for urination, to discourage them from engaging in sexual intercourse with any woman…another extreme to which men have gone in the past to control sexual behavior.]
Ironically, most of the glory-hungry knights who left Europe in their zeal to take the “Holy Land” away from Moslems never returned home. Some 20 percent of them were killed in battle, and some 60 or 70 percent of them died from the plague and other di-eases. History also notes, not surprisingly, that many women managed to get around the iron chastity belts by one means or another, including having a second key made by willing locksmiths.
According to a number of totally unreliable sources on the Internet some form of chastity belts continued to be used in Europe well after the end of the Crusades, and, in fact, into modern times. Such is the terrible hold that religious beliefs have on both men and women.
However, given the male psyche it is not surprising that historically males have gone to inhuman lengths to prevent females from exercising their full sexuality because it is far stronger than that of males.
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Boyé Lafayette De Mente has been involved with Asia since the late 1940s as a member of a U.S. intelligence agency, journalist and editor. He is a graduate of Jōchi University in Tokyo, Japan and Thunderbird School of Global Management in Glendale, Arizona, USA. In addition to books on the business practices, social behavior and languages of China, Japan, Korea and Mexico he has written extensively about the plague of male dominance and the moral collapse of the U.S. and the Western world in general. Recent books include: CHINA Understanding & Dealing with the Chinese Way of Doing Business; JAPAN Understanding & Dealing with the NEW Japanese Way of Doing Business; AMERICA’S FAMOUS HOPI INDIANS; ARIZONA’S LORDS OF THE LAND [the Navajos] and SPEAK JAPANESE TODAY – A Little Language Goes a Long Way! To see a full list of his 60-plus books go to: www.authorsonlinebookshop.com. All of his titles are available from Amazon.com.
A detailed explanation of why and how male dominance has been a plague on humanity since Day One, and what could and should be done about it.
The origins of human violence have been known since the earliest times but efforts to control or diminish violence have not succeeded because men were in charge of all of the efforts. This book, available from Amazon.com in both printed and ebook formats, explains why and provides some answers.
The Pitfalls of Logic in Dealing with Foreign Cultures!
Boyé Lafayette De Mente
BEIJING–Americans endeavoring to negotiate business and political deals abroad often face a barrier that is so subtle, so unexpected, that they do not know how to deal with it.
They typically spend an inordinate amount of time and energy in an effort to explain their goals and methods and get their foreign counterparts to understand and accept them, with little or no success.
On these occasions the automatic response of most Americans is to assume that their counterparts don’t really understand the points they are making, and begin repeating themselves. In these repeated efforts some talk a little louder; others assume it is a language problem and attempt to break their presentations down into simpler terms. Many end up watering down their original objectives in order to get a deal.
While the degree of the impasse and the level of frustration that develops in typical Americans various with how internationalized or Americanized their foreign counterparts have become there is almost always resistance on some level that the American side cannot fathom or readily accept.
This situation arises from the fact that American businesspeople and diplomats pride themselves on being fact-oriented and logical in their thinking, and their presentations and negotiations are reflections of this deeply embedded mindset.
In Asian, Hispanic and some other societies it is generally not hard facts and unadulterated logic that carry the day. It is human relations and feelings—which in the American mindset can be both irrational and shortsighted.
For the most part, Asians, Hispanics and others are motivated by a variety of cultural obligations that must be met before they can whole heartedly accept and pursue projects presented to them.
In fact, it is not too much of a stretch to say that Asians and Hispanics are allergic to pure American style logic. Those who do accept propositions and responsibilities that they do not like do so by rationalizing that it is better to have a bad bargain [from their viewpoint] than no bargain.
And generally, especially in Asia, there is the unspoken intent to take advantage of foreign relationships and technology by gradually subverting them to conform to their own views and needs.
It is therefore imperative that Americans and others who are driven by their own facts and logic to make a serious effort to discover how and why their potential partners think and behave the way they do.
In other words, liuoji (luu-oh-jee) is Chinese logic; ronri (rone-ree) is Japanese logic; nolli (nohl-lee) is Korean logic, and so on, and they are defined by the cultures in which they developed—not the American definition of the term.
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Boyé Lafayette De Mente has been involved with Asia since the late 1940s as a member of a U.S. intelligence agency, journalist and editor. He is a graduate of Jōchi University in Tokyo, Japan and Thunderbird School of Global Management in Glendale, Arizona, USA. In addition to books on the business practices, social behavior and languages of China, Japan, Korea and Mexico he has written extensively about the moral collapse of the U.S. along with books on his home state of Arizona. To see a full list of his books go to: www.authorsonlinebookshop.com. Recent books include: CHINA Understanding & Dealing with the Chinese Way of Doing Business; JAPAN Understanding & Dealing with the NEW Japanese Way of Doing Business; AMERICA’S FAMOUS HOPI INDIANS; ARIZONA’S LORDS OF THE LAND [the Navajos] and SPEAK JAPANESE TODAY – A Little Language Goes a Long Way!
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